Couples Therapy
Steady, weekly work to understand the cycle, repair the ruptures, and build a relationship that feels like home again.
We meet for 60-minute sessions, weekly or biweekly. Early on, we slow down the conflict enough to see what's really happening underneath it — the fears, longings, and old wounds that drive the same arguments on repeat.
From there, we practice. New ways to bid for connection, to repair after a rupture, to stay present when it's hard. Many couples come to ongoing sessions after an intensive, to hold and deepen the progress they've made.
The three things sessions tend to circle
Communication
Breaking out of criticism-and-defend loops into being genuinely heard.
Trust & Repair
Rebuilding safety after betrayal, distance, or years of disconnection.
Intimacy
Restoring closeness, desire, and the felt sense of being a team.
What we work on, specifically
Three patterns I know deeply — recurring conflict, family-of-origin, and ADHD in relationships.
Recurring Conflict & Disconnection
The same argument, on a loop — or the quiet version, where you've stopped having it at all. One of you reaches and gets louder; the other goes flat and leaves the room. Neither move is wrong, and each one triggers the other. We map your specific cycle so you can catch it in real time, then rebuild the conversation you've never been able to finish.
Family-of-Origin Patterns in Relationships
Nobody arrives in a relationship as a blank slate. Long before you met, you learned what happens when you need something and whether it's safe to be upset — sometimes through overt events, more often through chronic conditions people minimize as "not that bad." Those lessons show up in your marriage as instinct. We trace them to the root so you can choose on purpose instead of inheriting by default.